Another case

We are going through another case of codependent victim mindset manipulative controller backlash. No, I am not name calling. It is an actual psycho diagnosis and label. It is never fun to cross someone like that. But we have learned to give it to God. I hope we have. We have to end our kinship foster placement because of that. This will help the children's caseworkers help the family and the children in the long run because codependency is more than just depending on one another. It is a debilitating cycle that does not end. It passes on from generation to generation as one generation victimizes the next. It's better to get backlash than to allow that to go on. We were feeling all sorts of bad sending the kids on visitations, so why not feel bad while we help them and their families get professional help at the same time? We did this placement without anything in return, and we still do not expect anything in return. We just know that total surrender to God means letting the children go this time. Because if God brought them to us so we can help them, God will still be with them as our job ends here. Keeping them will be disobedience. That is all I know. Do I feel guilty? Yes. Do I feel horrible? Yes. Do I feel pain for the kids? Yes. It's terrible. It is a disgusting feeling to have to send children away. No child will ever suffer again when Jesus comes back. That's what I keep remembering. Children suffer mostly not because of their doing, but because of the sins of the adults around them. It is so sad. There is nothing I can do but to obey God. If we disobey, we jeopardize everything. We jeopardize our relationships with God, with each other, with our kids, and jeopardize our future, our ministries, and our health, mental, physical, and emotional. The unhealthiness was bleeding into our family life and it was not good. I am really glad and thankful God allowed me to experience the other case years ago so we know how to deal with this healthily. Our priority is still to God and to our family. I am sorry the foster kids have to suffer. All kids and adults suffer because this is a sinful world. We all are damaged goods that need Jesus. We are just damaged in different ways. Sin is our common enemy. Not one another.